Mr. Stirling,
I am immensely sorry for what you experienced. That is very sad and indeed traumatic.
Institutionalized children have experienced multiple traumas, starting with the separation from their mother in whose body they grew, then, as you describe, many — very sadly — experience additional trauma upon trauma. None of that erases the original trauma. It just adds more on top. And I will not argue which is worse. That’s like arguing if it’s worse for your loved one to be shot or stabbed to death.
I also will not disagree that SOME adoptees have no interest in searching. That does not mean that they did not experience one or multiple traumas. There is no adoption without loss, separation and trauma.
I also will not indulge in your assumptions, guesses and speculations of Barrett’s daughter’s alternative life. Had Barrett not adopted her, likely someone else would have.
I note that despite all you say, you do not address my suggestion that caring people send donations to improve orphanage conditions and life in general in impoverished nations to help families, communities and nations in need, and not just “rescue” individual children leaving their families and other families behind in the same condition.
Many adopters are assured the children they are adopting are orphans and have no families. Sometimes it’s true. Often it is not. The fact is that 90% of the children in orphanages worldwide are NOT orphan or even parentless.
Mr. Stirling,
I am immensely sorry for what you experienced. That is very sad and indeed traumatic.
Institutionalized children have experienced multiple traumas, starting with the separation from their mother in whose body they grew, then, as you describe, many — very sadly — experience additional trauma upon trauma. None of that erases the original trauma. It just adds more on top. And I will not argue which is worse. That’s like arguing if it’s worse for your loved one to be shot or stabbed to death.
I also will not disagree that SOME adoptees have no interest in searching. That does not mean that they did not experience one or multiple traumas. There is no adoption without loss, separation and trauma.
I also will not indulge in your assumptions, guesses and speculations of Barrett’s daughter’s alternative life. Had Barrett not adopted her, likely someone else would have.
I note that despite all you say, you do not address my suggestion that caring people send donations to improve orphanage conditions and life in general in impoverished nations to help families, communities and nations in need, and not just “rescue” individual children leaving their families and other families behind in the same condition.
Many adopters are assured the children they are adopting are orphans and have no families. Sometimes it’s true. Often it is not. The fact is that 90% of the children in orphanages worldwide are NOT orphan or even parentless.
Mr. Stirling,
I am immensely sorry for what you experienced. That is very sad and indeed traumatic.
Institutionalized children have experienced multiple traumas, starting with the separation from their mother in whose body they grew, then, as you describe, many — very sadly — experience additional trauma upon trauma. None of that erases the original trauma. It just adds more on top. And I will not argue which is worse. That’s like arguing if it’s worse for your loved one to be shot or stabbed to death.
I also will not disagree that SOME adoptees have no interest in searching. That does not mean that they did not experience one or multiple traumas. There is no adoption without loss, separation and trauma.
I also will not indulge in your assumptions, guesses and speculations of Barrett’s daughter’s alternative life. Had Barrett not adopted her, likely someone else would have.
I note that despite all you say, you do not address my suggestion that caring people send donations to improve orphanage conditions and life in general in impoverished nations to help families, communities and nations in need, and not just “rescue” individual children leaving their families and other families behind in the same condition.
Many adopters are assured the children they are adopting are orphans and have no families. Sometimes it’s true. Often it is not. The fact is that 90% of the children in orphanages worldwide are NOT orphan or even parentless.
I wish you well.
